Equality gone wrong

"Should a man hit a woman if she spit on him."
A woman sits in a bar, touched the way no woman should be.
Unwanted, uncalled for, shockingly and without reserve.
Harrassment.
A man waits at a street corner, turns and mistakenly looks
At a woman's backside, breasts, lips.
Harrassment?
Then that woman, she slaps him.
Justified?
We talk about equality, like for like, measure for measure.
An endless cycle of discussion and "Time's Up" and black dresses to the Baftas.
The fists rise into the air in solidarity
People leave their jobs for the sake of gender pay equality.
But does equality mean that measure for measure should enact?
"Should a man hit a woman if she spit on him."
Yes, because if equal, then equally treated they must be.
Yes, as if you want to be the same as a man, then punished you should be.
Yes, they cry, because I'm not going to hold the door for you anymore.
I don't have to be a "gentleman". 
Don't have to offer you my jacket if it is cold.
Shouldn't be expected to pay for meals on dates.
Should not be treated as if any look is a case of harrassment.
"Should a man hit a woman if she spit on him."
...
Perhaps the woman should not spit in the first place.
Perhaps the situation should not arise.
Perhaps different questions should be asked, such as, "Why don't we all open doors for each other."
Or "lend your jacket to all out in the cold."
And "do not spit, hit, hate."
And "do not hit back, whether you are male, female, black, Asian, white, gay, straight, old, young, Hindu, Muslim, African, Austrian, blue eyed, brown eyed, an idiot, a genius, left voter, right voter, evolutionist, flat-earther ..."
Revenge, they say, is a dish best served cold.
Perhaps we should never have written the recipe.